is the slogan on buttons displayed by the people protesting gay marriage legislation in Vermont. The tactic being used by the right wing protesters, led by The National Organization for Marriage a group based in Princeton New Jersey, which is stepping up its campaign with radio ads which will pepper the state and neighboring areas, and they have encouraged supporters to send emails to legislators which state:
For millennia, marriage has been the way that societies, across all cultural, ethnic and religious lines, have connected children to their own mothers and particularly fathers. This is a fundamental role of marriage which ought not be changed lightly.
Vermont Public Radio (VPR) reporter John Dillon has been covering the story and reported (audio):
(Dillon) At a news conference, the opponents displayed a list of what they say are the risks of same sex marriage. At the top of the list is what Steve Cable described as a major threat to children.
(Cable) “It actually revokes a promise that’s been throughout history and is part of the institution of marriage – that is inherent in marriage – that every child born within a marriage will have a mother and father. It completely revokes that.”
(Dillon) But Beth Robinson of the Freedom to Marry Task Force said research has shown that children raised by same sex parents are not harmed. And she said that Vermont law already allows same sex parents to adopt children.
(Robinson) “What the question that we have before us today is, okay, given that we know that there are same sex parents throughout the state raising kids together, are we going to ensure that those kids have access to the full scope of protections of civil marriage, legal, economic, social, and personal? Or are we not? And from that perspective I think the best interests of kids are squarely on our side on this.”
Mental Health advocates in the state are actively refuting these claims
Dr. Jackie Weinstock, a UVM professor and psychologist, released the joint statement of support signed by the state chapter of the National Psychiatric Association, the Psychological Association, the Association of Mental Health Counselors and the Vermont chapter of the National Association of Social Workers.
“What brings us here today,” Weinstock said, “is a shared interest in the psychological well-being of all people.” She said the groups want to “set the record straight” given what they said had been a “misinterpretation” of available scientific literature by marriage equality opponents.
“Research has shown children of same-sex couples are as likely as children of heterosexual parents to flourish,” Weinstock said, adding “research shows same-sex parents are just as likely to provide healthy and supportive environments for children.”
Interestingly in West Virgina, the State High Court is hearing arguments this week on same sex couple adoption
CHARLESTON — The West Virginia Supreme Court heard arguments Wednesday over whether a baby would be better off adopted by a husband and wife she hasn’t yet met or a same-sex couple who have cared for the child since birth.
Kathryn Kutil and Cheryl Hess’ are fighting to continue to take care of a 15-month-old foster child after Fayette County Circuit Judge Paul Blake ruled the girl should be placed under the care of a heterosexual couple who might adopt her.
Kutil and Hess argue the ruling was discriminatory.
The state says married couples should get preference in adoptions because they provide more stable environments for children.
It seems that not all of the Justices there are buying into the bogus argument:
Attorney Thomas Fast, the baby’s court-appointed guardian, said the toddler deserves the chance to have “a legal mother and a legal father.”
But at least two of the five justices — Margaret Workman and Robin Jean Davis — suggested that chance has long since past for this child.
“You’re recommending we rip her out of the only home she has ever known,” Davis said to Fast. “Nothing could be worse.”
Fast, who had urged the Fayette County judge to issue a statewide injunction prohibiting the Department of Health and Human Services from placing children in same-sex households, argued in court filings that children reared without fathers have more cognitive difficulties and behavioral problems than children with fathers. He also argued that children raised in traditional families are less likely to abuse drugs or alcohol, be promiscuous or commit crimes.
But Chief Justice Brent D. Benjamin said two parents may not always be best, especially if one is dysfunctional.
Having worked with too many abused children who didn’t don’t have good parents – no matter their gender, I am appalled by the manipulative use of this meme to prevent any child from having loving caring parenting.