Even after decades of self-inspection, I can still be surprised by a sudden insight. I would venture that I’m not alone in this. Bear with me as I re-enact the twisted path I took to my latest discovery.
This most recent breakthrough came about in the usual, very roundabout way. It started with an article in the Atlantic that posited the behavior of man’s best friend is entirely driven by genetics. I found little in that article to make me rethink my knowledge of canine behavior, but it provoked further thought.
The article really pushed the idea that humans mistake a dog’s instinctive behavior as a form of love between dogs and humans. What the article didn’t mention is that science is beginning to show that many, perhaps all, forms of love are driven by brain chemistry. One study found a chemical basis for the love demonstrated by elephant mothers towards their young and another study showed a real bond between human couples that share the sex act.
This research is still in its infancy. While these feelings may be chemical in nature, they are still part of a greater whole. It is also possible that the chemical changes in the brain are caused by the emotions rather than the other way around.
This diary isn’t about brain chemistry or dogs. I mentioned the above to set the stage for the thought process I went through. When these thoughts came to mind, they were the first hints of a personal breakthrough.
As a dog-lover, I was instantly skeptical of the conclusions drawn by the author of the article. When I thought it through, I realized that part of that reluctance was driven by my poetic nature. A poet sees mystery and wonder in even the most mundane things. That thought led to another realization. No matter what science reveals about the actual mechanism behind love, I will always see it as something bigger and unexplainable.
The idea that there is something beyond the purview of science leads to another obvious thought. This must be exactly how religious believers reconcile scientific discoveries with their faith. That final small step in logic was a huge step for me.
Those of you who have read this far may be wondering why I even bothered to write about something so obvious. Yet, it is not all that obvious to those of us who don’t believe in a god or gods.
I have been an atheist since before I entered puberty. Many atheists, like me, have a hard time understanding how any intelligent person can believe in any of the established religions. Yet, here I am, like any true believer, ready to compartmentalize the findings of science and my belief in love. Never again will I doubt the sincerity of a religious believer who justifies their belief by saying you must have faith. I won’t share those beliefs, but I can share in a type of faith. I do that now when I think of love.
What seems like such a simple understanding is actually a great leap in understanding for me. It only seems easy because the leap was made in small steps – from dogs to love to poetry to religious belief. A lifetime of wisdom comes from such small steps.
Perhaps it is as Indries Shah wrote. “Enlightenment must come little by little – otherwise it would overwhelm.”
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