Maybe it’s my age. Maybe it’s just me. Maybe it’s my years and years of frustration.
Yesterday I had some disagreements here and elsewhere over the Bush I stupidity. From my vantage point, I saw more commenters take the “see Bill Clinton is really the jerk” stance than Bush I defines who and what the right was and remains.
While we can debate forever about Bill’s response, the truth is it is a judgment call…quite subjective. Some saw Bill’s reaction confirming Bush’s sexism, and in a sense wishing he could be like him, while others saw Bill reacting the only way he could; acknowledging it was wrong, and acknowledging that because it was a Bush, the press would give him a pass. More to come…
Either way, in my view, Bush’s stupid attempt at humor, was not nearly as offensive to me as Dick Armey’s treatment of Joan Walsh. Maybe it is because being a female, age 63, Armey’s talking down to Joan, even before his sexist comment, his laughing at her views, dismissing them long before he called them “prattle”, brought it back. So many of us who came of age in the 1960s, who believed in change back then; who marched for it, battled for it, learned, the hard way, that the change was not going to include women, not until we specifically made women’s issues a movement.
So you understand, I came of age at a time when a single female, even if she worked, needed her father or her husband to cosign so she could buy a car. In 1970, I had two female colleagues who wanted to buy a house instead of rent an apartment as so many of us were. Both were teachers, both were making decent salaries. They were not gay, but just thought it was financially smarter to buy rather than rent. The rest of us (females) were shocked. We had never thought of that and frankly most of us assumed we needed a husband before we could get a house. But I was impressed. Some of our male colleagues reacted with that same kind of derision I saw from Armey yesterday.
All through the 60s, we, the females, were never asked to the table. While the liberal males discussed the important stuff, we, got the coffees, got the meals, and were told (in actions if not words) where our place in the movement was.
It is from this background that I come.
I have pushed my way onto committees for our district that were all male…the tech committee.
And while I was never hesitant to speak up, my comments were greeted with the same kind of “pat on the head, that’s nice dear” derision, I saw all through the last year at some dem meetings here in my city. While women are and have been the worker drones for the democratic party for decades, men retain most of the leadership positions.
I have labeled over the years by friend’s spouses as “whacko left”, as “bitchy”, as one of those feminist types.
These men are much closer to the Dick Armey type than to the Bill Clinton type. The media has given them, Armey, Delay, Newt….a pass. No matter how rude, how obnoxious they are, they get invited back. Chris Matthews STILL has a damn show.
I admit I have residual anger from the primaries. The pundit class got away with blatant sexism and much of the reason, imo, was because the left would not call them out as long as they were supporting Obama.
Chris Matthews, Mike Barnicle, Scarborough, and many others were given a free ride no matter how nasty their sexism got. When Katie Couric called them out on their sexism, she was labeled by Mr. Liberal KO as the “worst person in the world.”
So yea, Bush I made a stupid joke. It was a definite eye rolling piece of ignorance and stupidity. But compared to what the pundit class has allowed to go on with sexism, compared to the personal, one on one insulting rudeness and misogyny on display with Armey, it was low level for me.
And when Matthews could only offer up “he was wrong but he’s a nice guy”, I saw red.
Armey is NOT a nice guy. Nor did Bush II have a “sunny nobility” as Matthews crowed. But they get a pass.
And no Hillary is not “shrill.” And she was NOT every one’s ex outside court after the divorce. And she was not “pimping” her daughter. Nor should her clothing, or looks have been in play. But they were. Because she is female. Joan was belittled and Armey was given a pass by the host because Joan is female. Bush I was given a pass which is exactly what Bill Clinton said…..because the press ALLOWS the right to get away with this sh*t all the time. They are an old boys club and they will back each other because the pundit class likes their money and their power.
I would love to see Rachel really go off on these guys but she won’t. She can’t get away with it any more than Katie Couric could. Even the so called progressive pundit class puts their gender ahead of their politics. THAT is what I see, what I feel, and what frustrates me. Two years of sexism got a pass from much of the left, and frankly, I still have not gotten past that. After Obama won, I worked for him, distributed signs in my neighbor hood and voted for him.
I support him but I will NOT support giving a pass to the right wing jerks who continue to mock and belittle those of on the left… of both genders but especially those of us who are female.
This is more of a rant than a diary, but some of you wanted to me to do it and so I did.